The word “Problems” exists in everyone’s life but with a
different meaning. Similarly, “Problems” stay for a different period of time
with different people. The truth behind is, sometimes problems do not stop
chasing us and sometimes we don’t stop chasing problems.
It might seem foolish or meaningless that “sometimes we don’t
stop chasing problems”. But this is the fact that restricts or extends the
duration for the stay of a problem in our lives.
How do we chase problems?
The answer to this question is simple and easy to understand
that if we come across certain problematic situation, instead of fighting and
hiding it, we go on feeling and thinking that how bigger the problem is. This analysis,
if goes on for longer period of time, makes us feel the exaggerated impacts of
that particular problem.
This is a common phenomenon that we love to be in a company
where we find that people value us and we like spending more of our time in
them. Because we need value for ourselves and wherever we get it, we happen to
be there and feel delighted. Same is the case with our spiritual and cognitive aspects
that the more we value a particular aspect the more we feel it happening in our
lives. If we feel and do things that create happiness for us and for others, it
starts getting reflected in our practical life.
Same is the case with problems; they disturb us more when we
go on thinking more about them or when we create problems for others they
ultimately meet us somewhere. Because the problems feel that we value them by
staying, thinking, exaggerating, communicating and spreading them.
How to respond to a problem?
- · Don’t get hyper instantly, as it lessens the ability to think.
- · Analyse quickly whether it is really a problem or just seems to be?
- · If it’s really a problem, check out the priority, whether it really targets you?
- · If you are the direct target, think about the possible ways to resolve it. And if others are also liable, first try to narrow down the number of targets.
- · Do not spend time, measuring the pain or lose the problem has given to you (it will add nothing in letting it go, further) it will not let you find out the quicker solutions for it.
- · Remember, there is always a remedy to a spiritual and cognitive disease. That gets revealed when you find it staying in control.
- · Keep yourself strong to deal with the situations staying normal. (I defeated 90% of my big problems when I responded to them staying in control and open to solutions.)
- · Never under-estimate yourself, the effect of being yourself is bigger than any other effect.
The key feature, that has helped me a lot in dealing with
any kind of situation was “The thing I am doing being in anger can also be done
staying normal” and the second way was the best every time, I did.
The second thing that added to my positive behaviour towards
problems was, every bad situation ends up with some life time lessons and
experiences. And I started taking it as a game to welcome any kind of situation
with an open heart and mind because, in the end, it will give me something
useful. Rather finding the difficulties and problems a disaster, now I find
them opportunities to learn something new.
(Human nature is widely versatile and unpredictable, but
still based on similarity some suggestions may work)
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